Online Dating: Meeting for the First Time

Once you’ve found someone through a dating service that you would like to meet in person, setting up a first date might be in order. Because this will be your first meeting, keep the date short and simple. One or two hours in duration, at the most.

If the two of you hit it off, you can always extend your time together. However, if sparks don’t fly you avoid the uncomfortable situation of having to suffer through a longer, more involved date. For instance, instead of eating out and going to see a movie, choose one or the other.

Your first date should be one where the two of you have the opportunity to talk and get to know each other better. A noisy, distracting environment such as a party or dance might not be the best choice.

Instead, make plans to meet at a restaurant, or even a coffee house like Starbucks. Trendy and fun, with a casual atmosphere that is relaxing and conducive to easy conversation.

Until you know for sure whether the two of you like each other in person as much as you did online, avoid sharing your address or personal information such as where you work, etc. Arrange to meet at a public place, each providing your own transportation.

Confidence could be derived from mind conditioning. When you think that you are a person of confidence, it is surely to exude. Could you imagine these people who arrive in a party with all people turning their head just to have a look at that man or woman? You do not have to be very beautiful or be very sexy just to achieve confidence. When you are confident, everything beautiful and sexy follows.

Being insecure is never good. When you feel this way, try to divert your attention. Ask your date questions about her. With that, you can somehow evade the situation where you have to answer questions.

To make a more exciting date and keep your self away from the questions you are not comfortable with, it would be wonderful if you find a similar interest between the two of you and go out. Trying the things or activities together would be very interesting. You could talk about your past experiences about those happenings.

There is always the chance that the person you came to know online misrepresented themselves. Therefore, inform friends and family members about your dating plans.

Tell them who you are meeting, and where. Also mention the name of the dating online service where the two of you met, the person’s e-mail address, telephone number, etc.

While chances are the date will be enjoyable, the need to ensure personal safety make taking precautions essential. You may have been honest in representing yourself online through the dating service. But you won’t know for sure if your date did, until after the two of you have met.